Life is Short…Get What You Want!

18 Aug 2011 In: Uncategorized

Needs are our way of surviving.  Without the most essential needs addressed such as food, water and sleep we would cease to exist.  Wants have been described as what people think they need and are usually happier once attained but would still survive without them…or would they?  I get it that we don’t fall off the face of the earth if we dont get exactly what we want but aren’t we much happier when we do?

I like to think of a want as a need on steroids – we need sleep but want a bed to sleep in, we need food but want foods that are tasty…this is nothing new, so why do we continue to deny ourselves when we know we are not getting what we need or fail to acknowledge our wants in life?

In order to know what you actually want you do have to know what your essential needs are especially when deciding on a career or during a job search.  For instance, I need freedom and the ability to work at different hours of the day and that need might fluctuate from day to day.  Therefore, a cubicle work setting or long days with limited breaks or the inability to switch tasks or locations frequently will send me into stress mode.  The absence of a need is a stress behavior so when our needs are not met we behave in ways that do not benefit us and over a prolonged period of time will cause physical and emotional damage.  So the next time you feel guilty about getting what you need and being happy with getting what you want think about the alternative?  No one needs or wants that!

What needs do you know about yourself and are sacrificing? What wants are you denying yourself?  Do you need and want less of a commute so you can literally stop driving yourself crazy?  Do you need consistency, clarity and to have a cause in your career but deal with chaos, communication breakdowns and the lack of opportunities to make a difference?  Do you need time to think through possibilities in your work but are constantly put on the spot or made to turn projects around without the necessary timeframe or resources to be successful?

The most successful people know what their needs are and create strategies to make sure those needs are fulfilled.  They also are not self sacrificing when it comes to their own needs and wants and are rarely made to feel guilty about it.  They also recognize that they are solely responsible for getting their needs met and satisfying a want and do not blame others for the lack of either.  The more your needs are met by your own doing the more you will be available to be a better worker, manager, co-worker, spouse, parent, friend, etc. and the more you know what you need the more you will become aware of and respect the needs of others.

Here are some tips on identifying your needs and wants:

  • Make a list of your needs and wants – see how closely they are related
  • Take a needs assessment to understand what your needs are and how to fulfill them
  • Make a plan or strategize a way to stop sacrificing your needs and actually get them met
  • Take a Birkman assessment that specializes in uncovering your needs and understanding your stress behaviors
  • Make a list of your wants and do everything in your power to get them

New Year, Same Roadblocks?

5 Jan 2011 In: Uncategorized

First and foremost, Happy New Year!  Now, what is so happy about it?  Is it the prospect of new beginnings, thinner waistlines, fatter bank accounts?  Or the thought that this could be the year that we actually follow through on all of the goals we set for ourselves?  As 2011 prompts New Year’s resolutions, a common problem arises – very rarely do people profess or incorporate HOW they are going to follow through with them. I believe people genuinely need and want what they announce in their annual missions but often fail at achieving them because they try to accomplish them with no plan or support.  Then, when faced with a roadblock, they don’t have the tools to overcome it and abandon the resolution due to frustration or fear of failure.  As a career consultant, I hear about the roadblocks people face in their work throughout the year.  Here are some examples:

  • I know I want a new job but I don’t know what that job is.
  • My job is great but there is no growth for me in my company.
  • What if I quit my job and can’t find a new one?
  • I love my work but hate my boss.
  • I am too old to make a change.
  • What if the next job is just as bad as the one I already don’t like?
  • No one is responding to my resume.
  • There aren’t any jobs out there for me.
  • I am tired of a corporate atmosphere.
  • I don’t have the tools or resources I need in my current job.
  • I am tired of having job after job that doesn’t work for me – I am ready for a career.

People put their resolutions out in the universe for others to hear in order to, I believe, hold them accountable but if you notice seldom do people ask for help or seek guidance as part of those announcements.  If finding satisfying work is your 2011 resolution, you don’t have to go it alone.
And you don’t have to rely on just the universe to hold you accountable, either.  The universe gets busy so you might want another person to help you uncover your career vision, set goals and make steps towards achieving them, create a career plan that will get you to the place you want to be with your work, and finally get the roadblocks out of the way THIS year…Now, that is something to be happy about!

A few ways Casey Rowe Consulting can help:

To get a recruiter or not to get a recruiter might be a question you run into during a job search.  How can a recruiter add value to your job search and how can you optimize the partnership?  If now or ever you find yourself in the midst of this decision, here are a some tips for your consideration:

Identify recruiters that specialize in your line of work or the line of work you are interested in:

  • Check out your state’s Association of Personnel Consultants to narrow down your search. For example in Texas its (Texas Association of Personnel Consultants)
  • Identify the type of recruiter you are working with: A retained recruiter usually has an exclusive arrangement with the client company and is hired for specific assignments.  Retained recruiters work very closely with their clients and can offer expert advice throughout the recruiting process.
    contingent recruiter is paid by the client company only if they are successful in finding a candidate that gets hired.  Most contingency recruiters work quickly and uncover many job positions.
    In any case, the organization that is hiring pays for the recruiting service, not you!
  • Set up a meeting to discuss your job needs and communicate what type of jobs your are specifically looking for, what kind of jobs you are open to, and (very important!) what kind of jobs you are not interested in

Use a recruiter to find a job AND to partner with you throughout the course of your career:

  • A good recruiter will keep up with you even when you have been placed in a position.  He/she will make phone calls to check up on your job satisfaction as well as keep you informed of other opportunities throughout your career
  • Keep up the relationship with your recruiter.  Even if you are not currently seeking a new position, let them know what your aspirations are and where you see your career headed.  This way, they can keep you updated with current openings and assist you with mapping your career for years to come.
  • If you are not comfortable with your recruiter or they continuously send you on interviews for jobs that are not related to your search – find another one asap!  There are too many qualified recruiters to waste time with one that is not working with you.  Find one you like and respect and who respects you and your career goals.
  • Use more than one! If you can’t find that one recruiter that meets all of your needs, meet with different recruiters to find a good fit – Look for recruiters who are on the hunt for jobs that meet your requirements and who consistently represent job positions accurately.  **if you are working with more than one recruiter, let them know what companies or positions your resume has been submitted to.  Otherwise your resume could end up being sent to a hiring manager several times.**

Create your boundaries and understand theirs:

  • Be very specific with your recruiter so that they don’t end up sending you on interviews for jobs you know that you are not interested in.  This is respectful of your own time, the recruiter’s time and their relationship with the hiring company
  • Find out how present they will be with your job search.

Questions to ask:

1. Will you critique my resume and offer feedback per position?
**although it is beneficial to include keywords in your resume that apply toward the position, be aware of how often they ask you to change your resume – too many changes from the resume that is geared toward the positions you are interested in may indicate they are sending you out on interviews that differ from your interests – especially if they ask you to include skills that you do not possess.**

2. How often will you call me about job leads?

3. Will you help me prepare for each interview and offer me as much guidance and information around the position as you can, even if you are not able to disclose the company’s name?

4. Will you follow up with me after the interviews and provide me with feedback post interviews? **clarify whether or not they expect you to follow up after the interview or vice versa**

Duality: Keep a focused open-mind:

  • Recruiters come across many positions that at first glance might not seem appropriate but be open to at least hearing about them.  It’s important to have a good understanding of your own strengths, skills and interests so that you can know if the position is worth interviewing for.  Listen to the reasoning from your recruiter and make the decision on your own based on their suggestions and your own goals.
  • There are many ways to identify your strengths, talents, interests and needs – a career consultant can help you with these approaches.  Take time to work through your attributes so that you can be as focused as possible on your own career decisions

Are you responding to online job postings over and over only to hear NOTHING back OR getting excited over an email response that turns out to be a hopeless receipt message from the last job posting you replied to? Online job searching can turn into a daunting dead end but that doesn’t mean your job search has to end up the same way.  What are you doing to not only set yourself apart from the talent competition but what ELSE are you doing to find a job?

Some are turning to creative ways of maximizing their resume’s exposure on t-shirts and quirky buttons:

This might not work for the accounting job you are looking for but for the creative types its a fun way to set yourself apart.  And that is the point – setting yourself apart and finding creative ways of getting yourself noticed!  The next time you decide to respond to a job posting online, take a second more to find a contact within the organization your are applying to and request an informational interview to learn more about the position you are applying for.  The interview process is a two-way street.  You are interviewing your future employer just as much as they are interviewing you as a candidate for the position.

Taking time out from your online search altogether is another approach to consider.  There are professionals in the industry you are interested in who are willing to sit down over coffee or on a phone call to discuss the pros and cons of the profession and often times people are willing to give you contact info of their colleagues for additional informational interviews.  Now you are building a network and networks offer opportunities and possibilities. You just have to research for a contact and ask for the meeting.

There are more ways to search for a job than endlessly sending out your resume online to gather no response.  To name just a few:

- Join an industry networking organization that you are curious about but have no previous experience in and volunteer for a duty that you ARE familiar with so that your strengths and talents shine

- Go to a job fair and map out the organizations’ booths that you are interested in beforehand.  Stop by those booths, introduce yourself and gain contact information – be efficient and reward yourself afterwards

- Make a list of your current contacts and start asking for some favors: ‘career karma’, ‘what goes around comes around’, ‘we all need a little help sometime’…

Don’t let ‘no response’ lead you to no job – take your search into your own hands and you just might be pleasantly surprised or employed! from what you find offline.

Remember the days when people would put the signs in their windows of the helping hands in case someone was distressed they would know that they had a resource for help within that home?  I am reminded of those days as I search online for helpful guides and info for my Gen Y clients as they face new career paths and uncertain economic times.  Who is out there to lend a helping hand?  What I found to be amazing is that Gen Yers are helping other Gen Yers through their own personal experiences, mishaps and successes.  Does this generation fend for themselves or do they have the older generations to lean on? Which information do they find the most useful and how can they identify individuals across all generations to bridge the gaps? 

Two websites I found to be inspiring are and  Both sites reach out to early professionals based on experiential data and insights.  Both offer age-old wisdom including traditional approaches paired with innovative suggestions and fresh perspectives.  Seems to be that both sites are attempting to bridge the gap.  If websites had windows, these two sites could definitely feature a helping hand to all generations.

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do . . .

5 Dec 2008 In: Uncategorized

Dissolving relationships of any type whether the romantic kind or professional kind can be heartbreaking and often surprising. A good friend of mine lives by the words ‘Rejection is Protection’ and in times when uncertainty takes hold those words always seem to surface in my head. ’The one’ suddenly doesn’t work out or the ‘perfect job for me’ doesn’t turn out how you had imagined. By re-framing your current scenario to work for you can be a challenging but a self rewarding process. Did ‘the one’ really meet your needs and align with your values? Did the job actually match your current and long-term career goals at least 80% of the time?

Re-frame: A pink slip can actually be your ticket to a fulfilling career! If you have recently been let go from your job or are thinking about telling your current employer ‘its me not you’ think about how you can spend some time working on yourself. A break can be a good thing – a mental vacation that incorporates a search for finding out exactly what it is you want to do can lead to discovery of the career that gives you energy and doesn’t fizzle after the first few months. If you need help putting your thoughts together and mapping out a route for your career give me a call or email – we can find that career path for you – till death do you part!

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